Yes indeed we usually get confused in the midst of these three simple but very valuable words which makes its presence felt in every aspect of our lives. Hero sees the heroine in a restaurant or school library and end up with guitars playing in his heart and he claims that he has finally fallen in the deep ocean of LOVE. Wow, sounds so simple right? But is it really love? Can one just fall in love by a mere sight of a person and gather all his courage to fight with the whole world for the sake of his so called ’’love’’? Let’s find out...
We come across many faces every day, some happy with joy, some sad with tears, some worried with tension, some enthusiastic with courage. Among this faces we like some and our attention gets fixed at that particular face for a while, it steals the thought process and gradually we want to see that face again and again, to talk to her and to know her. Now comes the junction of feelings, is it attraction or love? Or something else?
Well before throwing ourselves in at this junction let’s talk about one more interesting but very important part of our lives. Friendship. Friendship is often confused with love. We claim that she is my best friend but people say no you love her! Ya, of course I love my friends but not that way as people think! Now how to differentiate love from friendship??
Hauffzz... confusion, confusion and confusion! Let’s try to loosen the knots a bit...
Love is not a readymade halwa that when u see it somewhere u just simply buy and own it. Come on how can I start loving a thing say a chocolate before tasting it? Some love dark chocolate while some hate it! When we see someone and we claim that we are in love since we can’t just forget the very first image of her, that’s actually a mere ATTRACTION. Beauty, charm, and personality they leave their imprints on ones heart and it is natural that our brain wants to remember things which are beautiful and admirable to it. Everyone prioritises the beauty.
It is very important to know a person before having been said that you love her. Ok, attraction can play a role in love because, we talk to persons whom we like, whom we want to know more. So, it can be said that attraction is the stepping stone to love.
Now when we spend time with our attractions or things and persons towards whom we are not attracted but are forced to spend time with, there are certain qualities in them which we like and things which we hate. More we spend time, more we get to know about their personality, thinking, beliefs, more we start feeling comfortable with that person and gradually a feeling of trust and care and sharing gets developed amongst us for that person. And we say that we are very good friends. We are ready to go to any extent for our friends.
Now what is love then?
Love is care, trust, attraction and commitment. Yes I care for a person, but is that the only person whom I care for? , yes I trust a person but that isn’t the only person whom I trust blindly! Yes I can go to any extent for a person but that doesn’t mean that I can’t do the same for anybody else, yes I am attracted towards her but I am also attracted towards Katrina kaif...so how do I say that I love someone?
Here comes the missing ingredient, commitment. Don’t mistake me by thinking this commitment to be just a promise made to a person and obeying or keeping that promise with or without will. By commitment I mean the place in your heart which you give only to a single girl in your whole life. Before this, that place would be completely vacant, creating an emptiness in our life. Previously you would be searching for a person to fill that emptiness, must have misunderstood attraction and friendship as love but at last got nothing but disappointment by finding the presence of that emptiness still in our life. Love is a very special feeling, distinct from all and at the top of all feelings. I can have many friends but only one love. Love doesn’t differentiate people by giving them the tags of ‘best’ or ‘good’, in fact it allows only one person to step into, and traps her in it for the whole life. When one of our friends misbehaves, talks rudely, dislikes us, discourages us, abuses us, we gradually are driven away from our friend and the feeling diminishes. But in love there is no scope of dying out of the feeling, maybe the person whom you love doesn’t love you, always shows disinterest in you, doesn’t even talk to you, but still you love her more and more. Even if you dislike something or are angry on her or because of her, u lose your anger within a fraction of second, in short you can’t be angry on her at all since you can’t just make yourself disliking her!
Love is a feeling where you completely surrender your feelings, in fact yourself towards the habitant of the top most place in your heart, where heart stops its search for that person to fill that emptiness and is overwhelmed with the presence of that person. Our lives are not just our own now, it ties itself to the soul of that person, our happiness matters nothing now, and it is her happiness which we want at any cost. You are ready to go through all the troubles and difficulties to see the very smile on her face. You just can’t restrict this feeling for long, it just spreads over and over just like light spreads itself in all the directions. Even light dies after traveling a distance, but love goes on and on and on.
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